Ok, so when I was in high school or perhaps it was junior high, the cheerleaders had this cheer that went..."Be agressive, be be agressive. It was annoying and their cheerful smiles and stiff body formations made me want to be agressive and knock them down. But when I was thinking about the blog I am bringing you this evening, it's all I could think about because I hear the title of this blog so much it reminded me of those annoying cheerleaders. So...be a parent, what the heck does she mean by that you may ask. Pull up a chair, I have lots to say.
When I had my kids I thought the terrible two's would be the worst. Oh of course I knew that they would grow up to be bratty tweens and then teenagers with an attitude but I thought that would be a breeze. I was wrong. Most of the time it usually is one of the kids who are pushing all the right buttons here at home and half of the time they are pushing them buttons I am at work or somewhere else far far away. If or shall I say when a fight ensues it involves all three of my kids...oh did I mention I only have two kids...ladies, I will let you draw your conclusions of who the other kid is, you know who I mean!
Here is usually how the scenario goes. A fight breaks out, yell, yell, yell, talk crap, yell, yell, accuse, yell yell blah blah blah. Then I pull up and walk into the warzone. It's a race between all of them to see who can get to me first to tell me their side or because of technology I will get a pre-show via text message. They will tell me their side, he will tell me his but not before more blah blah blah. See I guess that's not really how the fighting sounds but I am getting really good at tuning them all out and thinking of other things entirely while it looks as though I am actually paying attention.
So the kids tell me their side and then it's his turn. As he is trying to tell me why he is the good guy and they are the villains, they will still be yelling at each other saying things like..."Don'tbelieve him mom!" I guess so long ago I used to actually listen until the battles that were not my own became mine when I started hearing.."You need to be a parent and do something. There goes that stupid cheer in my head but this time I can hear Be a parent be be a parent. I am a parent and it's apparent to me that someone actually needs to listen to that advice.
Since when did I become the one who disciplines for everything when half the fights happen when I'm not home. Why should I punish them about fighting about the computer when he let them get on after we agreed it wasn't going to happen and then I get told "Be a parent and do something"...are you kidding me? Then he pulls out the file cabinet in his brain and starts pointing fingers at me about kid situations from back in the archives. Kinda goes like this..."Yes I let them go on for two minutes, but last season of MTV she watched every episode of Jersey Shore when I asked you not to let her. Ok...I get it! I am not perfect and yes I let her watch Snooki getting punched in the face but the difference is, I accept that wrong and take the blame for it without saying "Yes I did it but you did X, Y and Z! Why oh why do people have to go on and on...just shut up, or as Adri says..."I prefer be quiet"
My BFF Frankie and I were discussing this just the other day and we both agreed it's like OK!!!!Get over it already. We are parents stop pointing fingers at us because you're not the parents we are. Here's the thing...If the kids are with me and make me mad I will be the parent and discipliner...is that a word? When you're there with them YOU be the parent and discipline them. So here I stand like one of those annoying cheerleaders and I'm cheering the words back to you...YOU be a parent, be be a parent and stop telling me to be something I do wonderfully!
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